Now that Hanna is 5... and in kindergarten I've been trying to do more and more things that help her realize she can BE, HAVE, DO anything she wants in this world. I've started doing collages with her, kind of like a vision board. I've had her find things she likes, things she thinks are beautiful and things that speak to her and have her glue them on a nice piece of heavy paper. It's just another project to her, but I'm hopefully helping her to look for what she DOES want in the world.
I've also been trying to help her look at the world in terms of what she does want, instead of what's going wrong, or what she doesn't want. It's a hard concept for a 5 year old, but I figure if I start now, and it becomes a normal way of thinking for her she'll carry that skill into her adult life.